Okay so mooore real talk for ya! So sometimes, it's even hard fro me. Hard for me to stay on track and keeping thinking what is best for me. Sometimes these old beliefs and people's negative thoughts/influences creep up in my mind.
So here we go.
I am OBSESSED with helping people become the real, best version of them. That voice inside of them that whispers: “I want more. I was made for more than this. THIS is who I truly want to be.” It is usually disguised as “Oh, I would love to wear that dress one day. I would like to travel here sometime. This would be fun.”
If it strikes a good emotional chord in you, its in you, and you want it. But heres the thing, most people will tell you “you can't have it. Not at this weight. Not until you have “the money". Life is hard. Good luck doing that.”
But I will not.
I think if you have a dream inside of you. Something that you WANT. Not only SHOULD you have it, but you totally CAN & NEED TO GET IT!
I believe in falling so deeply in love with yourself and what YOU WANT. That you must reconnect with who you truly are, and what you want. And make that your overwhelming passion!
BUT ! So, of course, thinking like this - I have feelings come up inside of me like : “damn, isnt that SELFISH.”
( See more on this in my bleg entitled: The S Word. )
Or like “You shouldn't think of yourself this much, its gross. It's selfish. It's self centered.” And I start feeling all sad like dang…I'm not trying to be selfish.
But NO MORE. Nope. I'm done with it. I'm done with listening to other people and making their beliefs my own.
I am done with letting OTHER people define the way I live by what THEY think.
And here's why:
Just because you believe in one thing, doesn't cancel out another. You can have BOTH AND MORE. Instead of choosing one over the other:
1) you can be a great MOM AND a great wife.
2) You can have a great career AND tons of free time to spend with those you love
3) You can be your goal weight AND still eat take out Chinese on Thursdays.
Instead of thinking if I'm FOR this, this is the only thing I can have. Instead of thinking “either or” - think BOTH AND MORE. The world is so abundant. God is so LIMITLESS. So, why do you put these limits on ourselves?
You can have BOTH & MORE!
You can think of yourself, be in love with what you want, and care about others.
In fact - I think the more you love yourself, the more you are able to love others. Because it is an exact mirror.
“Love your neighbor as you love yourself.” the Bible says. So if you are obsessed with giving you what you want, living your best life, being your best you, making your dreams come true. You will love OTHERS with the same passion and intensity. You will be obsessed with helping others live their dream life, and encouraging them to go after what they want in life.
We've been taught that its wrong or bad to have what you want.
So much, that I bet even reading this is making you feel uncomfortable. And that's okay - but I totally disagree! Think about it! There is only one world. One lifetime. And do you really think we were born, out of all the other 930285 sperms, to just show up in life, struggle with paying bills, stay at a job we hate, and die? HELLZ to the no.
We have specific desires that are UNIQUE to us! I believe we all have a purpose and a plan! And most of us never get to it, because we stay stuck in the mud of “I cant do this. I can't do that. I'm just going to bow my head, and form in line with society, stay low, do my job, go home, pay bills, repeat. get cancer and die. “
Um. No. You have something soo unique in you.
You are the only YOU in a lifetime, a thousand year world - you are the only YOU here. So it is so darn important that you recognize your dreams and desires and make them come true.
And you cant do that if you hate yourself. If you're stuck believing that you can't live a big life, you can only live small. Or if you think its dumb, or selfish to get what you want.
Enough with that. It is vitally important to go after what you want in life, because literally
the whole world is waiting on you to step up and become who you truly are.
Quick Recap: (Because, who really reads every word - right?)
You have so much to give to this world. So much value, laughter, a unique point of view that only you can see. And you can't do that if you're stuck believing that getting what you want is selfish.
Enough with that: from now on we believe that standing up and getting what you want/being the true & best version of yourself is the BEST thing you can do for yourself and others!
When you step up and become yourself, you release others to do so.
When you step up and go after what you want, you give to the world something so special -
the unique dream, desire and value that ONLY YOU can give.
You can care about yourself, be obsessed with getting what you want AND be obsessed with loving others, thinking of them and taking care of them.
You can have BOTH and MORE. Not either or. From now on we believe, the best thing I can do for the world, for my fellow man is to step up and be who I truly am! The world does not benefit from me being sad, and not being myself, or playing it safe/small. But when I step up and become myself and go after my dreams, I release the world to do the same. I change my family history. I activate something inside of others. And that, my friend is the LEAST selfish thing you can eva, eva do.
xoxo stay beautiful,