So earlier I wrote a blog on the Art Of Losing Yourself, you can read it here. But its basically how you wake up one day, and realize..you don’t even know who you are anymore. And what to do about it.
Yeah, so this blog, is inspired by that one. Because I mention in that blog that of course, the remedy when you don't know who you are is to FIND YOURSELF.
But I realized..easier said then done because there are going to be a few things that stop you from doing that.
And it's THE S WORD.
I was talking to a girl on the phone yesterday for her photoshoot consultation! I asked her of course, how she wanted to be photographed. And how she wanted to feel about herself. I asked if she wanted to be photographed with her husband, and she said No. Not this time.
She said “I want this to be ALL ABOUT ME. I know that sounds kind of selfish.”
“I want this to reflect MY personal journey, so I can look back on it. I want to take time for myself…even though I know it sounds selfish.”
”But I'm all about taking care of me, and working on myself to make myself better. Even though its a little selfish.”
And there is it, the S word: SELFISH.
This is what is going to stump you, and stop you from living your dream life. From being who you TRULY want to be.
This idea that you are selfish.
And I know what its like…it literally happened to me. I had this group called #SelfieClub online, and its just to encourage women to be our best selves & just a safe place to be open and love on ourselves. And I shut it down after a few months because everyone was posting selfies and saying how beautiful they felt and I was like…wow, how selfish.
Until the Lord had to deal with my heart, and I've been on this journey ever since. How can you love someone else if you don't love yourself? You can't.
And we think its SELFISH to LOVE ourselves? To take care of ourselves? To put ourselves first!
So you must FIRST shift your mind to believe that taking care of yourself is the BEST thing that you can do.
Not only does it benefit you, but it the BEST option for others.
You can't pour out of an empty glass, but how often do we do it? When we are not secure, confident and set in ourselves - we will be looking for validation from others. We will live for their acceptance and die from their rejection.
But when you take time for yourself, to be secure in who you are - you will do things JUST because you love them.
We are here on Earth to FLOURISH. To be ALL that we can be. We are supposed to grow into the best versions of ourselves. That is the LAW of this world. That everything grows. If you are not growing, you're dead. Flowers go from bud to full bloom. Animals grow from babe to beast. And we are too, supposed to flourish into the best we can be.
(because if you're like me, I be skipping over blegs until I get to bullet points, whoops hehe)
You can never release yourself to be FULLY yourself, the truest you - if you subconsciously believe it is wrong, bad or selfish - so you must SHIFT the way you feel about it.
Taking time to enjoy, celebrate & love yourself is NOT selfish. It is self-love! You are glorying in life and in the perfect, unique creation that is you.
Putting yourself first is also NOT selfish. It is self-love! And putting priorities in others, you can't save others if you're drowning.
The best thing you can do for others to be a whole, complete person, secure in who you are & living your best life!
This is the purpose of life - to grow to our fullest potential. And when you are being ALL you can be, it will release others to do/be the same!
xoxo, stay beautiful